063 How to grow your emotional intelligence

There are many ways to grow your emotional intelligence. This episode proposes four very practical ways to do so.

This week’s Inspire Me quote is from Albert Einstein:

“The measure of intelligence is the ability to change.”

In this episode, Leary & Armin pick up from the previous episode on emotional intelligence to suggest four ways to grow your emotional intelligence:

1. Practice alternative explanations for behaviors. This depersonalizes conflict, perceived or real.
2. Frame your response to another by owning the emotion that is generated by an incident. Explain how the interaction affected you and offer an alternative. Use this formula to express your emotions: “When____, I feel ____ because ______ I would like _____”
3. Increase your presence awareness. Three areas to increase your presence awareness: self-awareness, relational awareness, and contextual awareness.
4. Anticipate possible responses you can make. Decide ahead of time how you might respond to a given situation.

This week’s Challenge Me:

Practice the “When…I feel…because…I would like” formula in your next conflict. Let us know how it goes by leaving a comment in our show notes at www.reinventure.me/63

Resources mentioned or related to this podcast that may be helpful to you:

• Emotional Intelligence: Why It Can Matter More Than IQ, Daniel Goleman, 1995. The classic book on emotional intelligence.
• What is emotional intelligence, Reinventure Me episode 62 on the definition of emotional intelligence.